(Disclaimer: This is a picture of my real desk at home, a physical representation of how my mind is most days and the reality of being a wife, mom, leader of an organization, (insert additional role here) and a human being. I don’t always have it together.
Ephesians 4:25, Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.
Let’s be honest about the grind, hustle, and how we got to where we are in life. Have you ever asked someone how they are doing, and their response is I’m Blessed and highly favored, but they never tell how they got to that point? Maybe, you are following someone on social media and they always seem to have it together. You know the people that have the perfect selfie, they never seem to have a load of laundry that is undone. Their children are always polite, and their husband always seems to say or do the right thing at the right moment. Maybe, you are that one person who appears to have it all together. Maybe, you are secretly comparing your accomplishments to those around you and you feel like you have come up short. Sis let me tell you right now, it is time for us to be completely honest with each other. We have to let people around us know that there was a mess before the progress that you see today, and, in some cases, I am still a mess. Before I was able to say that I am blessed and highly favored, I was broken, felt worthless and alone. Yes, I am always on the grind but there are days that I am dog-tired and fall asleep in my uniform. There are days that my kids and I eat cereal because they refuse to cooperate with me and some days they win. There are weekends that I stay in my PJs all day and binge watch tv or sleep because I don’t want to adult all the time. There are times when I feel like my spouse and I are playing the real-life version of battleship. There are nights that I don’t sleep well because I have insomnia, or I worry a lot. There are times when I go to a therapist because I can’t deal with some things on my own. There are times that I cry because that is the only way that I can talk to God because the words won’t come out. There are days that I am going to suck at being a wife, mother, sister, aunt, girlfriend, godmother, employee, manager, etc. because I am human. However, despite all of those things, I am me. I am a work in progress that will still be there when you need me just know there are some days that are better than others. Please know that I am trying, and I must be intentional about my progression daily no matter how big or small the progress is. All I ask is that you be honest with me and I will make sure that I am honest with you. It is our honest, in your face stories that will speak life into us as we take this journey together.
Be who you are Sis. There is only one you. Be honest with her, she may need to know her struggle is your struggle too.