A Conversation about Self-Care

I was honored to have a discussion about self-care with Annie Brock, the CEO of the Leader Transition Institute.

I met Annie while attending the LTI’s Changing Focus Course “From We to Me”, after a recommendation from one of my amazing leaders.

The course helped me change my mindset about transitioning from the military to civilian life.

“LTI is organization that assists individuals who are transitioning from one industry sector to another, with a special emphasis on service members, veterans, and their spouses who are transitioning from active military service to the civilian sector.”

Source: https://www.leadertransitioninstitute.org/

I hope you hear something that resonates with you that you can use on your self care journey.

Self-Care Reminder: All weight is not ours to carry.

Sometimes our role is:

  1. To help them shift the weight.
  2. Help them find another way to carry the weight.
  3. Encourage them while they carry the weight.


  1. Light the path they are walking while they carry the weight.

Being there for someone doesn’t always mean you have to carry their load. Sometimes your job is to just be there.

They won’t forget who was there for them while they took the journey to figure out this thing we call life.

Happy Tuesday!💋

SheTravels: Be Safe Out There

Hey Sis!

As you begin to explore the world again, I want to share a few things to assist you in getting back out there.  It’s busy sis!  Gone are the days of the ghost like airports and roadways. We, the people, are out here in these airports and streets strong. Don’t let that deter you from traveling. You can still do so and be safe. 

Here are some things I wanted to share…

  1. Masks. In the airport and definitely on the plane (specifically Southwest) companies are serious about passengers wearing their masks during the entire flight. As one flight attendant put it,” if your drink or food is down, your mask will be up. “
  2. Hand sanitizer is everywhere!
  3. Rental Cars. Contactless pick up is the way we operated, the only time we interacted with a representative was when we were exiting and needed our contract (she was also wearing a mask).
  4. Hotels. Most hotels have digital keys and you can check in using the app. Your contact can be non-existent if that is what you prefer. The hotels that we stayed in, the staff wore masks. The rooms also had seals on the door to confirm they were cleaned. It appeared that one hotel had a partnership with Lysol. Some hotels have returned to breakfast buffets and some are only providing a grab and go breakfast. If you are fully vaccinated for COVID-19 you don’t have to wear a mask. Others must follow the current CDC guidelines.
  5. Restaurants. They are open. Some restaurants in the airports are still closed due to the pandemic so your choices may be limited. This info comes in handy if you have a long layover.
  6. Social Distancing. Social distancing is still being encouraged.
  7. If you are still nervous about the cleanliness of the hotel room, you can pack your own lysol, wipes, towels and washcloths.
  8. Rewards Points. It’s never too late to sign up for airline, hotel and rental car reward points. Depending on how often you travel, you can end up with free room upgrades, night stays, rental car upgrades, flights, etc.
  9. Purchase snacks before heading to the airport or hotel…its cheaper! You will thank me later. Lol.
  10. Enjoy the trip. If you are going to spend the money you might as well enjoy the trip. Everyone has a different budget but the goal is the same…to create memories that will last forever. I forgot my phone at home the morning we left for the airport and I must say, it was one of the best welcomed accidents that could have happened.

Remember, You can travel and still be safe.

Happy Travels!

Disclaimer:  The travel tips above are based solely on my personal experiences while traveling.   The decision to travel is based solely on the reader’s decision.

A Reminder: A Reason, A Season & A Lifetime

Go with the flow…

As we arrive in month seven of another unpredictable yet manageable year, I have had to remind myself that change is still the only constant thing in my life besides my little immediate family. We are still in a pandemic and some of us, are still trying to navigate what we experienced or were dealt up until now. Some days are easy and some days take a little more work. Some days we know who we can call and some days we don’t feel like we can reach out to anyone. To be honest that is okay. Those feelings are a part of being human.

In these moments remember situations happen for a reason, a season and in some cases they can affect your lifetime but we are strong enough to handle whatever comes our way. We also have to remember that people come into our lives for a reason, a particular season and they may not be there for our entire lifetime. We have to remember this and move accordingly.

It may be time to let go of the job you have been showing up for that has stopped showing up for you. It may be time to walk away from those who fail to see the value in you or your relationship or it may be time for you to step your game up in certain areas of your life and show up consistently for those who show up for you in their actions and words.

Whatever the case may be, remember, everything in life that happens is for a reason, a season or a lifetime. The best way to help you go or grow with the flow is to know the difference of each encounter and roll with it.

May you enjoy the journey one day at a time.

Let’s Go!

A Dope Soul Interview…Alex H.

Tune in as Alex and I discussed how to be successful in the new year and beyond.

You don’t want to miss the jewels Alex dropped.

*Feel free to share what “spoke” to you during our discussion in the comments section below.*

Happy Wednesday!

Podcast Link: https://anchor.fm/…/A-Dope-Soul-Interview-Alex-H-_How… (available on Anchor and other major podcast platforms).

Website: https://beintentionalcc.com/…

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A Getaway…

My view for the next few days!

Last fall a friend of mine sent me a link about a place to go for a mini getaway.  We text each other a lot, so when I received the link, I looked at it, told her thank you, the place looked amazing, I would look into it and let her know what I thought.  Time passed, one day and I was on social media browsing a travel group that I am in.  This is something that I do periodically due to COVID-19 restrictions. I browse the page to live through others. I was presently surprised to see that someone had written their review about the same place my friend send me a link to.  I immediately went back through our text messages and it was the same link.  I was overjoyed…I decided it was time for me to take a trip.  Of course with the COVID measures in place. As much as I love my family and our time together the last nine months, Neek needed some time to herself. So I booked the trip.

I know, you are probably thinking, where did she go? I booked a cabin through the Getaway House in a little town called Wimberley, TX. It is on the other side of Austin, TX. The booking feature was simple. From the time I booked, I received periodic countdown emails with information about my stay, what to bring with things, and places to explore. Each time I got an email, I got more excited about the trip. I forgot to mention booking this trip was also apart of a new year’s tradition I started last year. I book a staycation for myself to bring in the new year with some self-care and self-reflection beginning of the year. This year was different though, I would be celebrating my 40th birthday.

After waiting for 3 weeks, it was finally time to pack up my car and get on the road, and head to my mini-retreat. I let my husband know I was leaving, hopped in my car, and onto the interstate. On my way there I listened to music, thought about how I would spend the next 3 days and 2 nights, and also chatted with a friend until my cell phone service faded.

Finally, I arrived at my cabin. The weather was cold and rainy so I made sure to back my car into the designated parking space. You know just in case I had to make a quick getaway. Did I mention this little cabin was in the woods, it was pitch black outside and I did not have a strong cell phone signal? Once I was in the cabin, I was amazed to see that it looked just like the pictures on their social media account. I mean exactly like it and it was the perfect fit for me and what I had planned.

The digs were just as legit as the photos online…

After unpacking and putting away my grocery and wine, I took a shower, hopped in the bed to read the book I brought with me until I fell asleep. If your wondering, yes! I did let my family know that I made it there safely.

My first night there the sleep was amazing and to be honest every night’s sleep was amazing, for those that know me, I don’t get restful sleep. To wake refreshed was something new for me. My morning routines were the same, lay in bed until I was ready to get moving for the day then try to knock off the things on my list. Day one was successful, I was able to reflect, draft my thoughts for an upcoming podcast and then I took a nap, I woke up to read, fixed dinner, and then drove to the local store for water and a slice of birthday cake…yeah, random I know. I also took the time to download a few shows to watch on my iPad. Day two, was a little different. I had every intention of getting up to write for my blog, start on my next book, and just write about the emotions I felt on this journey of year 39 and the transition to year 40. Yall, after I showered and ate breakfast, I decided to day drink (wine) and ended up in bed all day!

I read my book, watched Hulu and Netflix. Did I mention it was still cold and rainy? My plans had plans and it was A-M-AZ-I-N-G!!! This was also the day I enjoyed that slice of birthday cake with a glass of sweet red wine. I didn’t even eat dinner that night (don’t judge me). The sky cleared and I was able to enjoy my last night sleeping under a beautiful view of the stars.

The last day of my trip ended a little differently. The next morning, I woke up to a beautiful sunrise and decided to welcome the morning with a cup of delicious apple tea. During this time, I stopped to reflect on how amazing the past few days were. I know most people go to places like this to completely unplug from the world. No cell phone, no electronics, etc. However, I needed to be in a space by myself where I could think clearly and enjoy being in a new environment. I needed to be in a space where I could hear my thoughts. I needed to be in a space where I could write and record without interruption. I needed to be in a space where I could recenter and become one with myself again. After the events of 2020 and the beginning of this year, my time alone in a cabin in the woods was necessary. After a couple more hours of enjoying the sun and taking in the scenery, it was time for me to pack up SUV and get on the road. I sent a text to my spouse to let him know I was headed home. The drive back was just as serene as it was on the way there, the sun was beaming and I decided to open the sunroof to let the rays warm my skin. I turned up the music and sang the entire trip but somehow I ended up at the pancake haus at a table for one enjoying my book, brunch, and a mimosa.

If this how I am welcoming in year 40, I can’t wait to see what 2021 has in store. Let the countdown begin…

Soul Searching Sunday: Declutter Your Spirit

Over the past few weeks I have been asked what have I been doing in regard to my weight loss and “glow”.

You know I don’t mind sharing my journey. To be honest Sis, I let go of things that were not good for me and in some cases the things that I did not know were not good for me left. To include negative self talk. We all know how powerful words are.

I also woke up one morning and decided it was time for a change in some areas of my life and instead of taking time to plan it out and make my plan known to my family, tribe and village, I just made the changes and told them about it later.

Why? I knew if I waited until I had a plan, I would procrastinate. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Moving quick is scary but in some cases necessary for true change and commitment to happen.

After everything that has been going on this year since Jan, I needed to declutter my spirit.

These are some of the ways I started. I am still a work in progress and I am still on this journey but I am at peace because I am not where I was six months ago.

If you are ready for something different, your change can start today!

Happy Sunday! 💋